Are You Climbing the Wrong Mountain?
You hustle hard. You chase the dream. You stack wins. Maybe you’ve even achieved what others envy—six figures, a personal brand, followers, influence. And yet… something gnaws at you.
Why does success still feel hollow?
It’s not because you haven’t worked hard enough. It’s not because you need more money. It’s because you’re using someone else’s map.
In a soul-punching conversation between Matt Hersh and Brian Begin, they dismantle the illusion that achievement equals fulfillment—and offer a powerful alternative: embodiment.
“You can hit all your goals and still wake up disconnected. Embodiment is what makes success actually feel like success.” — Matt Hersh
Redefining Success: From External Metrics to Internal Mastery
Matt’s early life looked like a dream resume: Ivy League grad, corporate fast-track, and a growing fitness business. But beneath the shiny surface was tension, stress, and a subtle despair.
“I was building something powerful. But it wasn’t mine. It was a mishmash of mentors and shoulds.” — Matt Hersh
He’s not alone. Most high performers are quietly miserable.
Here’s why: They’re trapped in a model of success that’s disconnected from who they are energetically. And the longer they delay that reckoning, the more burnout compounds.
🔍 Ask Yourself:
- Does your business energize your body—or drain it?
- Are you building from your core or chasing shadows?
- Does your life feel yours—or are you roleplaying someone else’s dream?
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” — Maya AngelouThis is the threshold of redefining success—not as accumulation, but as alignment.
Embodiment: The Gateway to True Fulfillment
“Nothing works without bringing the body along. You can succeed from your head, but it’ll never feel whole.” — Matt Hersh
Embodiment means feeling deeply, choosing from sensation, and operating from grounded presence—not anxious overthinking.
Matt’s turning point? A Reiki session that cracked open years of unresolved grief. His body arched, his spine released, and a message came through: “I’m already proud of you.”
That moment rerouted his entire life.
⚠️ Signs You’re Disembodied:
- Numbness below the chest or belly
- Can’t stop working, even when exhausted
- Feeling unfulfilled in success
- Overthinking relationships and missing emotional cues
Scientific Insight: According to neuroscientist Dr. Stephen Porges, safety and connection begin in the body’s nervous system. Without regulation, no amount of mindset work can lead to lasting change.
“Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” — Viktor Frankl
Flow State: Living from Genius, Not Grind
“Real flow isn’t hype. It’s the moment you’re doing the dishes and feel completely alive.” — Brian Begin
Too many people confuse flow state with peak performance adrenaline. But true flow is stabilized ease. It’s not about cranking harder—it’s about harmonizing deeper.
Matt reframes it brilliantly:
“It’s not a peak—it’s a home base. A way of being.”
🌀 Real Flow Looks Like:
- Calm focus during intense work
- Creative ideas that arrive effortlessly
- Reduced need for willpower
- Emotional congruence and relaxed energy
Let go of the myth that hustle is holy. Flow is your natural rhythm—if you’re brave enough to slow down and listen.
3 Resistance Points That Keep You Disconnected
❌ “I Need More Money First”
Truth: Nervous system dysregulation doesn’t wait for wealth. The stress patterns you build now become your baseline.
- Your body associates money with pressure.
- Your creativity becomes transactional.
- Your success becomes a gilded cage.
❌ “I Don’t Have Time to Slow Down”
Truth: Stillness isn’t a luxury. It’s a gateway to energy, clarity, and power.
- Slowing down = space to recalibrate
- Recalibration = better decisions, less rework
- Better decisions = exponential momentum
❌ “But I’m Doing the Work Already”
Truth: If it’s only mental, it’s not working.
Matt shares how embodiment shifted everything:
“I went from burnout cycles to building systems that matched my nervous system. And suddenly, everything clicked.”
Techniques That Actually Move the Needle
These aren’t surface-level hacks. They’re doorways back to your embodied power:
🔹 Morning Qigong
Ground your energy. Use slow, rhythmic movement to align breath, body, and field. Feel earth pull you down and sky lift you up.
🔹 Sacred Mundanity Practice
Pick one daily chore—cooking, cleaning, driving. Do it at half speed. Breathe. Soften your chest. See how different life feels when you actually show up.
🔹 Somatic Pulse Check
Set an hourly alarm. Ask: Where am I bracing? Then: Can I soften that spot by 5%? That’s the doorway.
🔹 Erotic Energy Integration
Practice pelvic floor breathing while visualizing energy rising from root to crown. Use sexual energy as creative fire, not just release.
“Sexual energy isn’t just for sex. It’s life’s force. I used to leak it. Now I build with it.” — Matt Hersh
Energetics: The Hidden Architecture of Your Reality
When you change your energetics, the field changes. Clients appear. Creativity surges. Fatigue dissolves.
“Embodiment doesn’t just help you feel better—it shifts the vibrational architecture that your life builds itself around.” — Brian Begin
This isn’t woo. It’s physics. Energy follows intention, and intention held in the body transmits a signal.
So… what are you transmitting?
Brotherhood: Your Nervous System’s Missing Ingredient
You weren’t meant to do this alone.
“Your biggest growth won’t come from podcasts and solo journaling. It comes from rupture and repair in real-time with other men.”
Join a group. Step into discomfort. Be seen—especially when it’s messy.
That’s where the transformation begins.
New Metrics for Redefining Success
Drop the follower count. Forget the funnel.
Here are the metrics that matter:
Flow Recovery Time: How fast can you return to your center?
Emotional Flexibility: Can you stay open under pressure?
Presence Quotient: Do people feel safer around you?
Energy Range: Can you access both softness and power?
Sexual Aliveness: Do you own your energy without leaking it?
Embodiment Scorecard: Take Inventory
Rate yourself 1–10:
- I can sit in stillness without craving distraction.
- I feel my lower body throughout the day.
- I make decisions from gut + heart, not anxiety.
- I can hold tension without collapsing or numbing.
- I experience genuine joy not tied to external wins.
Score Guide:
- 45–50: You’re living your truth
- 30–44: You’re opening—stay with it
- <30: Your mind is steering—your body wants in
Final Thought: What If You’re Already There?
“I don’t need a reason to be valuable. I can just open my heart and be.” — Matt Hersh
What if your path forward isn’t more effort, but deeper surrender?
What if success isn’t something to earn, but something to inhabit?
You don’t need another system. You need sensation. You don’t need another strategy. You need presence. You don’t need more hustle. You need you.
✅ Your Next Step:
📺 Watch the full conversation between Matt Hersh and Brian Begin: YouTube
💬 Comment below with your biggest takeaway. What resonated most deeply? ❤️ Subscribe to our YouTube Channel and explore embodiment coaching at brianbegin.com
🧠 You’ve thought enough. Now it’s time to feel.
The missing piece… is you.
